The conversation went something like this –
#1 teenage son – Your brownies are better than the ones we had at that place the other day, Mum.
Me – Oh, thanks. I’m pleased about that. What made the difference?
#1 teenage son – The other ones were just like chocolate cake. Yours are like soggy chocolate cake.
Me – I guess that’s soggy in a good way then?
#1 teenage son – Yup.
So there’s a couple of things in this exchange to talk about. Firstly, it’s important that you appreciate that this, in the world of #1 teenage son, is ‘gushing’. It doesn’t happen very often and mostly you may blink and miss it, but when it does happen it means a LOT. So others may hear, “Your brownies are better than the ones we had at that place the other day, Mum” but experience has taught me to translate these words, when uttered by Mr non-gusher himself, as, “These brownies, Mum, are drop dead gorgeous. They are the most delicious BEST EVER chocolate brownies in the world. And you are such a fantastic Mum too … and beautiful … and smart too.” Well, maybe not those bits at the end, but you get the idea. And I guess what this also makes me ponder, is that when an enthusiastic gusher says positive or complimentary things perhaps it can mean less than a compliment from those individuals who are built from the same mould as #1 teenage son.
So the other thing I need to explore, is his use of the word ‘soggy‘. A small detail, you may be thinking, but let me put this into context….